There’s nothing new in listening to people keeping talking about losing the virginity before marriage, especially when it comes to a girl. Most of the people believe that virginity plays a key role in a relationship when it comes to the true love and loyalty. However, it is not the case of every human being, who is capable of having sex and keeps on arguing whether a woman should lose virginity before marriage or not. Some do agree and some don’t, in fact depends upon the way a person thinks and sees the world. Here’s what is going on in Tunisia.
Tunisian women who have had sex before marriage are increasingly undergoing surgical operations to have their hymen reconstructed, so that they can measure up to the male population’s “primordial condition for marriage”. What do you think?
Tunisia is an Islamic country which is very well considered as a progressive country and a role model for others also. However, Tunisian men (unlike Indian men) still consider marrying a virgin to be a priority.
A Tunisian sociologist Tarek Belhadj Mohamed believes that this kind of male attitude reflects the “hypocrisy” of Tunisian society, which refuses to recognize the change in behavior of a large section of the population.
“The Tunisian way of life seems modern and open, but the reality is different: Our society and even our ruling elite is in theory tolerant on the question of virginity, but when it affects them personally, virginity is a primordial condition for marriage,” Mohamed said.
Hymenoplasty takes around 30 minutes and costs from £330 to £576, according to Tunisian gynecologist Faouzi Hajri. He performs the operation on around 100 women a year, with some women travelling from neighboring countries Libya and Algeria.
Hajri says, “It’s a taboo subject, which explains why there’s a lack of official statistics”.
Our society and even our ruling elite is in theory tolerant on the question of virginity, but when it affects them personally, virginity is a primordial condition for marriage.
Sociologist Tarek Belhadj Mohamed
According to a research by the psychoanalyst Nedra Ben Smail, just 5% of Tunisian young women are not worried about losing their virginity before marriage. Some 75% of women want to appear to be virgo intacta on their wedding night and choose to undergo the operation for getting artificial hymen.
“Virginity certifies a woman’s validity in our society where her purpose is essentially sexual and reproductive, while men have to ‘train’ so that they are sexually mature when they get married,” Smail argued.
He called the operation a form of “discrimination towards women”.